16 Jul How to Be That Girl When You Feel Dead Inside

Let’s be real. Sometimes, being That Girl — the one with the 5am routine, aesthetic journal spreads, and green juice in hand — feels completely out of reach. Especially when you’re waking up tired, overwhelmed, and quietly whispering, “I literally cannot.”

We see her all over TikTok and Instagram. She glows. She meditates. She’s booked, busy, and still manages 10-step skincare before bed. But what about the rest of us — the girls running on iced coffee, unspoken trauma, and vibes?

This is for you. For the ones feeling emotionally flatlined but still trying to hold it together. For the ones who want to thrive, but today just want to survive. Here’s how to be That Girl, in your own way, even when you feel dead inside.

1. Redefine What That Girl Means

She’s not just a Pinterest board. Being That Girl isn’t about perfection — it’s about intention. You don’t need to have your entire life sorted. You just need one thing to anchor you. That might be journaling one sentence a day. Drinking a glass of water. Taking a deep breath before checking your phone.

Start small. Romanticize the smallest acts of care — they’re proof you’re still choosing yourself, even when it’s hard.

2. Get Up (but Be Gentle About It)

On the days when your bed feels like a trap and the world feels like too much, try this: just sit up. You don’t have to conquer the world before 10am. You just need to meet the day halfway.

Brush your teeth. Change into clean clothes (even if it’s another hoodie). Open a window. Light a candle. These small acts are rituals of resistance. They say, I’m still here.

3. Feel the Feelings (Then Move)

Sometimes, pretending everything is fine when it’s not does more damage than good. That Girl feels things. She cries. She journals messy thoughts. She puts on sad music and lets herself go there. Then, she gets up and moves.

A five-minute walk. A quick dance in your room. Shaking it out like your nervous system needs a reset. Movement isn’t just physical — it’s emotional, too.

4. Curate Your Feed Like Your Life Depends on It

Because sometimes, it does. If your timeline is filled with people who make you feel like you’re behind or not enough, unfollow with love. Fill your feed with creators who speak to your soul. Who remind you that softness is strength. Who show up, flaws and all.

That Girl doesn’t live online — she lives in your real, messy, evolving self.

5. Choose One Nourishing Thing a Day

We’re not saying eat clean, journal, run 10km and write a gratitude list before noon. We’re saying: Pick one. One small, nourishing act. Maybe it’s drinking tea instead of doomscrolling. Calling a friend. Saying “no” to something that drains you.

When you feel dead inside, choosing yourself in tiny ways is how you come back to life.

6. Rest Without Guilt

Rest is not laziness. It’s not weakness. It’s your body and soul asking to slow down and reset. That Girl listens. She knows that burnout isn’t a badge of honour.

So take the nap. Cancel the plans. Turn off your phone. Rest is how you recover. Rest is how you rise.

7. Too Long; Didn’t Read: That Girl Is You

Not the filtered, flawless version. But the you that’s showing up, in bits and pieces, every day — even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard.

Being That Girl isn’t about pretending everything’s perfect. It’s about choosing yourself, quietly and consistently, even when your spark feels dim. Because that’s when your light matters most.