28 Feb Finding Love: Exploring the Path to Connect with Someone who Feels Like Home

My book club recently dived into this amazing book by Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah, ‘The Sex Lives of African Women.’ One quote hit me right in the feels:

“I want to meet someone like me. I want someone who can love me to the standard that I love. I need to be able to share my truths and for my truths to be received with humour. I want to share my anger, my rage, my disappointments, my dark side, my desires to die sometimes…”

For the past year, I’ve been on this quest, going on dates, searching for that magical connection. Honestly, I used to think the whole “soulmate” thing was overrated. Love should be simple, right? But as I’m navigating this journey, something’s changed. I’m starting to believe in soulmates, not in the Hollywood sense, but in a real, deep connection kind of way. I believe there’s someone out there who my heart will just click with – someone who feels like home.

But here’s the real talk: it’s tough out here. I’ve met some cool people, but it always feels like something’s missing. The initial spark fades, and suddenly, we’re back to square one. We fall for the idea of “us” rather than embracing the reality of who we are as individuals.

And I know I’m not alone in this struggle. We all want that special someone who just gets us – who speaks the same love language and is willing to work through the tough stuff with us. In a world full of uncertainty, we’re longing for a love that feels like forever.

So here’s to us, Chomees, on our journey to find that connection that feels like coming home. Keep believing in love, keep being true to yourselves, and never settle for anything less than magic.

Writer: Lelo Motsoane